Everyone has been at a get together one time or another with a bunch of friends. It’s a good time, everyone is drinking, laughing, dancing and having a good time until………Someone throws out a question and chaos ensues immediately! Opinions are being thrown around the room, everyone is yelling over everyone else to get their point across and it’s a complete mess. Nonetheless, it’s always interesting to hear the differences of opinion, especially when it comes to men versus women. In a nutshell, that’s how the panel was inspired.
The Panel is a series with a mix of men and women, ages 21-35. Every week 1 to 2 questions are thrown at the panel for their input and their answers are documented and posted.
Some of the questions have been submitted, while others are chosen at random.
Feel free to provide your own insight and even comment on the answers.
Round 1: Is Revenge Cheating Justified? Submitted by “99 Problems”
“Mr. Always Right”
Is revenge cheating justified..sure. Though I don’t think I’d recommend it because it’s not going to solve the problem of why the person cheated to begin with. If I was cheated on I’d like to think I’d (1) decide whether or not this person is worth trying fix things with and if so then (2) deal with the issue and move forward. I mean I know it’s an eye for an eye out here but “an eye for an eye we both lose our sight” and two wrongs won’t make that shit right. Revenge cheating feels a little on the immature side to me. But there are a lot of immature relationships out here so, there you go.
“The Wild One”
REVENGE cheating is never justifiable. Two wrongs don’t make a right. There’s too many people on that tit for tat shit – it’s horrible. There’s too many females fucking out of spite and hurt. They run back to old flings and old boyfriends out of comfort only to look like fools. Males do the same but are only affected if they really love their woman. Fuck Cheating Be Faithful
“The Free Spirit”
As a cheater turned monogomist (whatever that means), I no longer see the point in cheating. (I know, i’m probably BSing because i’m all in love now, but fuck it) As for being justified, if someone cheats on you and you agree to stay to with them, then you’re agreeing to accept whatever mistake he/she made in the past. I can understand why someone would be hurt, but if that’s the case, you should probably talk about those issues with your spouse. Find out why they cheated and if the relationship is repairable. Stepping out of the relationship will add no value to your life and you end up hurt walking around with your head down and a wet ass.
“Unbothered & Unfiltered”
I personally wouldn’t revenge cheat because I see no point. I’m just going to drop your ass, but I can understand why someone would. My thing is if your going to revenge cheat you have to go bigger then your partner. If he stepped out on you with some random girl, fuck his brother.
In my opinion if a relationship has escalated to the point where one is cheating the other then it becomes a battle of who walks away with power. So revenge cheating is one of the various ways to gain the upper hand over your significant other if you find he or she is cheating.
“The Flower Child”
Revenge cheating is unjustifiable. I’ve never been one to tit for tat, especially when it comes to hurting someone else. Being cheated on sucks. Its painful and it often unearths a lot of insecurities and emotions you weren’t even aware existed. I’ve always felt the energy you put out is the energy you receive. The hurt that has been inflicted upon you does not justify you projecting those feelings onto someone else- especially for the purpose of making a point or reciprocating against a wrong. Ultimately, you’re prolonging your misery and surrounding yourself with polluted energy. Let it fall to the wayside! As difficult as it can be, let the cheater go! I’m not saying you can’t make a grand exit with a shower of F-bombs and choice words, but don’t retaliate and definitely don’t involve an innocent third party. It’s hard enough to deal with a betrayal, don’t allow your good conscience to be clouded by someone else’s deceit.
“The Sour Patch”
No, because if you want to maintain a serious relationship you must learn to forgive and move on. If you keep competing or using that as an excuse in the relationship to do some shitty stuff then it wouldn’t last. Now if you plan to end the relationship, then by all means be single! People forget you can just be single, no cheating is not involved in that… I know right the surprise!!! If you want your relationship to grow, and get better you both must put in 100%.
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