25 Reasons Why the Dating World Has Gone to Sh*t

Posted on November 5, 2014 by iiamcouture

Based on my conversations with friends lately and my own pathetic dating life, I decided to comprise a list of 25 reasons why the dating world has gone to sh*t. Granted, most of these are from my own experiences, so they are from a woman’s perspective – ~~sorry boys!~~

They’re also my opinion, so I wouldn’t recommend taking anything personal. Unless it applies to you, in which case, you should take it COMPLETELY personal.

Anyway, Enjoy!

1. No one “catches feelings”anymore

……until they catch feelings

2. Shower them with attention – they’re annoyed. Pay them no attention – they’re waiting by the phone like:

3. All of a sudden, 80% of guys are home-bodies who “don’t really go out much” and would rather you “come over and watch a movie”

4. You have to make them your #MCM/#WCW so they know it’s real -Submitted by Beatrice

5. Online dating has become a cesspool where 70% of people are either socially awkward, sexually frustrated or just really fucking unattractive.

6. It’s also where people feel entirely too comfortable expressing their “unique” interests

7. The people that think they “aren’t ready for anything serious” are the same ones telling you they love you after a month and how “this never happens to me”

8. People have unrealistic expectations but justify it as “not settling”

9. People who just want to hook up, want to hook up until they’ve hooked up. But not long after will ask you”where is this going?”

10. Everyone says “i’m not the jealous type”…….until they’re the jealous type

11. Every woman is “independent” and “doesn’t need a man”

12. “Age ain’t nothin’ but a number” until it’s time for a 20 year old to have a conversation with a 40 year old about their goals in life

13. Guys want a woman that cooks, cleans and does his laundry without question but when it comes time to pay for a date, will scream “equality”, “partnership”, “teamwork”

14. You do everything that couples do but won’t throw a title on it so you can always use “but we’re not together though” as an excuse to get a case of the “fuck-arounds”

15. No one wants to admit that they have no idea what they want

16. Single friends get together and give their other single friends relationship advice

17. Social media allows you to get to know multiple people at the same time which prevents you from truly getting to know one person because you have to remember what 8 other people’s favorite colors are and pretend to care about what they all like to do for fun

18. Instead of talking things out, you get subtweeted

19. Some single people can’t help but let everyone know they’re single. How many times have you seen this?

Or this

20. This happens…..

21. Too many conversations go like this:

Them:”Hi. I think you’re beautiful and I would love to get to know you.”

You:”Hey, that’s sweet, thank you. How are you?”

Them:”I’m good”

You:”How is your day going?”

Them:”It was cool”

You:”Tell me about yourself”

Them:”What do you want to know?”

22. A guy will ask you on a date, plan it, the whole nine. Then hit you with “Oh, by the way! Something happened to my car last week and i’m in the process of getting a new one” i.e. he doesn’t drive

23. Guys on IG like thisBecuase they live like this

24. Everyone lives super on edge with their feelings because no one wants to get screwed over

25. People try wayyy too hard to be someone they’re not while dating

That’s all I got! Feel free to comment and add on!

Until next time…..

Uzo Aduba “Crazy Eyes” TRIED IT and with every OITNB character!

Posted on June 11, 2014 by iiamcouture

The acting in Orange is the New black is truly undeniable – these people are wicked talented! One of the characters that sticks out the most is, without a doubt, Suzanne “Crazy Eyes”, portrayed by the beautiful Uzo Aduba. I can’t imagine her as any character other than her current one, but that doesn’t mean that she didn’t try! A recent so-called “leak”but perhaps PR stunt revealed that she went out for quite a few characters and in natural “crazy eyes” fashion, she DID NOT disappoint!

LEAKED: Uzo Aduba's OITNB Audition Season 1 from Uzo Aduba

25 Habits of Cheap People that Annoy the Rest of Us

Posted on May 27, 2014 by iiamcouture

Before I begin, being “cheap” and being “frugal” are too different things. Frugal folks, though they tend to be just as annoying in some cases, consider the “value” of items when purchasing. Cheap people are just a pain in the ass, but I have cheap friends and I love them anyway. Here goes!

1. When the check comes at dinner, yelling out “I only had….” and proceeding to list the water and whatever appetizer you ordered.

2. Coming to a social gathering, contributing a bottle of alcohol to the night’s festivities, then when the night is over, taking it back home with you. Kevin-Hart-Really-GIF

3.Inviting friends to go shopping and spending the entire time in the sale section of every store

4. Or commenting that everything is too expensive

5. Or commenting that you “would never spend that much on” whatever it is that your friend is about to purchase kim-kardashian-testing-out-la-florists

6. Driving on E while convincing the passengers that “I know my car”

7. Inviting people over during the summer and refusing to put the AC on when you can “Just open the window” Note: If it’s hot outside, then the air you are letting in will be, you guessed it? Hot too! 1388990714720

8. Which brings me to driving with the windows down to preserve gas. Friendly Tip: The AC takes up more gas than driving with the windows down thing is FALSE. When you drive with the windows down, the air getting into the car slows it down so you have to exert more pressure on the gas to go faster resulting in you eating up about the same amount of gas as if you would have driven with the AC. airplane

9. Never offering to put in for gas, tolls, pay to park, etc. yNKR9ou

10. Never doing any of the things above, but always needing a ride show-me-the-money01

11. Go to cookouts all of the time, but never bring anything

12. When you’re out with friends and expenses come up, likecab fare, using the excuse “I would, but I don’t have any more cash on me” oops

13. At dinner, talking about how horrible the service is so it will come to no one’s surprise when you don’t tip You-Turn-Your-Nose-Up-Parents-Who-Ask-Playdates-After-School-Because-Your-Child-Fully-Booked

14. Or low balling the tip Your Bill

15. Or using someone else’s tip to make up for your lack of tip 1390000070260

16. Bringing full course meals into the movie theater and making tons of noise trying to get it out of your bag, unwrap up, move it around and everything else to call attention to your grocery bag full of food

17. Continuously saying you’re “so hungry” so that someone will offer to buy you food

18. Standing in the grocery line FOR EVER because you’re in a stare down with the cashier who won’t honor your coupon

19. Just couponing in general!

Confession: I’m actually kind of interested in trying this, but there should be a separate line where couponers can wait in line for hours together as not to disrupt the rest of the universe.

20. Purchasing fake designer items because you “simply can’t justify spending that much on a handbag”

21. Critiquing those who actually did “spend that much on a handbag”

22. Going out and continuously asking “is this on sale?”

23. Always asking for someone’s Netflix or Hulu Plus login

25. Conveniently being “busy” whenever invited to a birthday outing to avoid having to buy a gift tumblr_mesl222Jcx1ql5yr7o1_400

Moral of the story? DO better!

The Panel – Round 3: Thoughts on Internet Dating

Posted on May 22, 2014 by iiamcouture

Round 3: What are your thoughts on internet dating?

-Submitted by a Panel Member

Mr. Always Right

I’m not against internet dating but I personally have never met anyone who had an actual relationship that started online. Not saying they don’t exist but I’ve never met them. Lot of meeting people, networking or hook ups. Nothing like old fashion face to face

The Free Spirit

Internet dating is still very taboo and for NO real reason, because most of you have met someone on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. It’s the exact same thing as having a Plenty of Fish, Ok Cupid (Which, if you live in New York, you should be all too familiar with EVERYONE being on there), Black people meet, etc only those are designated for dating. “The Bachelor” and I met on Black Planet YEARS ago and we’re still really great friends. As for my opinion, I LOVE IT! It’s like a catalog of potential suitors. If I don’t respond to a message, it ends there. I can create a profile saying exactly what I want and have a bunch of guys message me that meet that criteria. It’s like online shopping – but for dating! Yeah, you have your crazies and you do have to be very careful because you never know who you’re going meet, but I take the good with the bad and it’s worked out well for me. A friend of mine actually married and had her first child with her long time boyfriend that she met on Myspace. I encourage everyone to be open-minded and optimistic.

The bachelor

I personally feel with the drastic change in how we communicate everyday as people with social media, internet dating has been more socially accepted across the board. Internet dating is not for me because I’m old fashioned. If you work 90 hours a week chasing your career and have a busy lifestyle sometimes old school dating can be very difficult to fix into your schedule. Internet dating allows you to tailor the type of individual you wanna meet “preferably someone who understands your lifestyle” and makes it easier to date on the fly.

The flower child

I have no issue with internet dating done well and with good intent. While I have yet to reach the desire to try it out, I can respect people who have used it to facilitate meeting new people or beginning a relationship. I hate to think society has become so enamored with the internet that we’ve taken to it to find our matches for us. It takes away from the whole social experience. But whatevs, I get it, life is chaotic and people want love without the hassle of having to physically put yourself in a place to find it. I understand too that some people are just exhausted of dating. These sites can cut the cost of time and energy wasted on total flops by simply clicking next or ignoring a message. However, from the people I know who’ve tried these sites, the number of creeps they encounter totally outweighs the number of winners. I mean there are people who abuse these programs and troll for prey. The internet is a scary place when considering you have no knowledge of who is on the other side of the screen. Deceit is possible through the internet and in real-time. I just feel like the internet can be so much more deceptive than me experiencing you first-hand and catching your vibes. I’m not against it, I’m just not necessarily pro-internet dating either. I guess you could consider me indifferent. I understand it’s purpose for some people, I just don’t know that I’d trust it for myself. If it’s your preferred avenue, no judgement bro.

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Unfiltered and Unbothered

I don’t feel one way or another about it honestly. I know friends who have used it and gotten boyfriends and I know friends who have used it and got great fuck buddies. I don’t personally use it but I wouldn’t be opposed to it. Everyone lives their lives online anyway. not-listening

The Georgia peach

Online dating is great… when done right! Social media has made the dating world especially easier than meeting someone in person. On both ends of the scale it can be a good or bad thing. If you’re not catfish !!! There is a science to making a profile that attracts the right person. I would advise if a person decides he or she wants to meet up that you tell a friend for safety reasons. Online-Dating-GIF

The wild one

I THINK WITH SO MUCH OF OUR LIVES BEING DISPLAYED ON SOCIAL MEDIA FROM FACEBOOK TO INSTAGRAM AND ETC… IT’S A COOL WAY TO MEET PEOPLE. I’VE Met A Lotta Cool People online. The Real Question Should be What Are you looking for When You Online Date Are You Seeking A Soul Mate, A Friend, A One Night Stand Or a fuck buddy. tumblr_lmqy1bF5IF1qfdqnno1_500

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12 Reasons Why I Won’t Fill Out A Job Application

Posted on May 21, 2014 by iiamcouture

and There’s a Pretty Good Chance Other Milennials Won’t Either

As a not-so distant college graduate, there came a time when I was filling out almost 50 job applications every couple of days! Needless to day, Indeed became my very best friend.

I would scour pages and pages of positions for hours, find a position I thought was fitting, and “click wherever” to apply. Well, in a lot of cases, I wouldn’t go past this point from a number a reasons.

1. Company culture is EXTREMELY important to me. What is the company saying about their brand? Are they passionate? Up beat? Innovative? If not, I sense impending boredom and i’m on to the next one.

2. The application process is TOOOOOOO LOOOOOOOOOONG! I upload a resume in the beginning then have to go through an entire application process to input the SAME information! It feels like a futile and archaic process that takes up A LOT of time, so yet again, I keep it trucking.

3. Now comes the Company Website! Do they have some sort of “Meet the Team” page? I like to see who I would be working with and whether or not any of them look like me. I like to see diversity, it makes for an immersion of cultures, ideas and creative perspectives.

4.PAY! A lot of companies exclude this and I understand, because pay is often based on education and experience. But, I need at LEAST a salary range! – That’s fair.

5. Back to the company site again, are they giving back? Is the company involved in the community? Do they push corporate responsibility? Are employees volunteering? If not? Red flag! I’m over you!

6. GLASSDOOR! Oh yes! This is my absolute FAVORITE measuring method, because I want to know WHAT THE EMPLOYEES ARE SAYING ABOUT THE COMPANY! Are they happy with the values? Is there work/life balance (Which isn’t of much importance to me now, but it may be later on down the line when I have kids and a family)? Are there growth opportunities? Hell, Are the employees even HAPPY?!

7. Glassdoor 2.0, What is the interview process like? Is it an exchange between two parties uncovering if the applicant is as much of a fit for the company as the company is for the applicant? Are the interviewers engaging? Do they interview twice, once on phone and in person or do they interview several times? What kind of questions do they ask?

8. Do I have to write a cover letter????? This is laziness more than anything and depends more on the job that i’m applying for. If it’s something that i’m passionate about, I will write my little heart out in a cover letter. If it’s a bleh, I just need a job i’ll take anything. To hell with it, I’m moving on.

9. As a social media obsessor and considering that it’s a huge part of what I do, I like to see the company engaging with its audience on social media. Are they re-tweeting? Replying? Mentioning? Are they commenting on customer concerns posted to their Facebook page? What’s the turn around time?

10. I’m not qualified enough. I’ll read through the entire ad thinking “I can do that”, “I can do that too!”, “Oh I got this!” then get to the bottom and they want 5 years of experience, 10 years of experience, 30 years of experience and I decide “Welp! Won’t waste my time with that! Now that i’m older, I think that I would actually apply to a position that required a certain number of years even if I didn’t have it. The only surefire way NOT to get a job? Is NOT to apply! But, it still is a deterrent.

11. It’s a strictly Sales Job disguised as Marketing, Advertising or Public Relations. That, my friends, is BEYOND irritating.

12. The job sounds boring. Granted, there will be instances at every job where it isn’t the most thrilling place to be, but sheer monotony would drive me absolutely bat “ish” crazy!