The Panel – Round 2: “I’m involved with someone that’s involved with someone else”

Round 2: “I’ve been dating someone for a little over 3 months now and it’s getting serious but he is involved with someone else. I’ve fallen hard for this person and I don’t know what to do. Help!”

-Submited by Dazed and Confused


“Mr. Always Right”

Fall the FUCK back. Who is it getting serious for, both of ya’ll or just you? Cause if it was serious for him, he would have left his girlfriend and just been single and dating you. Listen, if ya’ll just gon have fun, or fuck or whatever then it is what it is, but if you want more you need to make some space and see what happens. If a guy wants you, he’s gonna do what it takes. Honestly, you dont really wanna get him by takin him from his girl anyway, cause if you DO get him what’s gonna stop him from talking to another chick once ya’ll are together..Same way you get a nigga you’ll lose him. So make some space and see what happens.


“The Georgia Peach”

“Move on! Easier said then done but your feelings count too. 3 months is not a long time at all . Someone else is bound to come along. In the meantime, get to know your wants and needs , so you can be better prepared.”


“The Free Spirit”

Ohhhhh boy! Been there, done that and there’s a 98% chance that things won’t end well….for you! First things first, what indication has he given you that things are “pretty serious?” Has he introduced you to family? friends?  Have you two discussed a future? More than likely, it’s a  hard no. You’re giving him everything that he wants, without having to commit, so he’s not going to. My advice? If it’s been over 3 months and he’s still with her, he’s NOT leaving and in the 2% chance that he does, it won’t be worth the constant worry that he’s going to do the same thing he did to her, to you. You deserve better.tumblr_m78khwpYgW1qhjvu5o1_500

“The Bachelor”

Warning!!!!  Before you fall for someone make sure it’s mutual. If you know the person you’re dating is also involved with someone else then keep in mind you don’t have that person’s 100% full attention which means you may be the “side piece”. Always do your homework before getting  too deeply involved or you will get burned!!!!!!!


“Unbothered and Unfiltered”

Umm y’all are not dating. It sounds like you’re a backup. First off I don’t know what your definition of dating is. Yes you can be dating multiple people but if you’re saying it’s gotten serious there shouldn’t be anybody else. Your best bet is to talk to him and tell him how you feel and see what he says. I feel like there’s more to this story then was given.


“The Flower Child”

you should feel comfortable to ask the, “Where is this going?,” question. Clearly, if he’s still involved with someone else, he doesn’t know of your interest in being exclusive to one another. Don’t come in intense asking about short and long term goals for your relationship and no ultimatums! You like this guy, just take it easy. Tell him what you’re thinking and ask him the same. If your stars align, awesome. If not, maybe your focus can sway to another “friend” as well. It doesn’t mean you’ve lost interest in continuing to get to know him, but at least you know to keep things light. When a guy wants you, I mean really wants you, he’ll let you know. The best thing you can do is communicate your interest. Sort of, a ball is in his court kind of thing. If he decides to play, then you’ve beat the competition! If not, then draft yourself a few more players and let him sweat it out on the sidelines!


“The Wild One”

-Took a different approach to the question and gave his perspective for if he was in that situation.

If I really cared about her I would give her an ultimatum. Either it’s me or it’s Him. Being a “side nigga” is cool only if you’re trying to have fun, but when your feelings get involved it’s a whole nother ball game. Triangles occur. Feelings get involved and people get hurt .


“The Sour Patch”

First, you need to talk to that person to see if he/she wants you in their future. Believe me.. you can tell when a person is serious or playing games! If they hesitate or talk in circles… Hmmm, you better leave it alone! If that person takes you serious, make it known that you want a exclusive relationship. So no extras involved. Now,if you continue to date the non-committed person, beware of the title SIDE-CHICK!!! Yea that’s going to be your name! Good luck on your shenanigan endeavors! 🙂



In a nutshell……chances are…..




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Elitist Welcomes NEW client: Hip Hop Artist Mathematics!


Hello again honey bees!

So, as you all know, I have already begun taking clients to build my brand as a Public Relations practitioner. Recently, I registered my LLC (YAY!) under the name: ELITIST LLC. I HAVE ARRIVED! Well, not really, but I will one day, haha!

Anyway, I recently made a VERY big and VERY difficult decision to let go of one of my clients. I haven’t revealed who that is until NOW!

On January 27, 2013, I resigned as publicist for F-Gutta, a local Hip Hop artist in Baltimore, MD.


I don’t want to go too much into details, so I will leave it as we have creative differences and that the partnership ran its course. I wished him well and I do hope that he succeeds.

MOVING ON, my world is in CONSTANT turmoil and I am always looking for bigger and BETTER ways to improve myself, my business and others. I mean, I AM in the business of IMAGE!

Anyway, there is an INCREDIBLY talented individual who I have been a fan of and supported for YEARS that has finally reached out to me in terms of building a partnership. This individual is INSANELY talented and is driven like NO OTHER!

He is Underground artist Mathematics!


Who is Mathematics?

“To put it simply, he is a seemingly average guy from Baltimore, Maryland who happens to have undeniable musical talent. Though he may be too humble to agree, his style is often compared to the likes of Jay-Z, Nas, and Common. Mathematics’ music can best be described as being incredibly smooth and enjoyably thought-provoking. Nevertheless, he isn’t confined to one particular style; he often diversifies his techniques, using swift deliveries on more upbeat tracks.” -Source:


How can his music be described?

“Controversially, Mathematics’ lyrics are brutally truthful. There are no masks, just truth, no matter how unconventional or unpopular it may be in today’s music industry. Through his music, you can take a rare look into his mind and visualize the highs and lows he deals with day-to-day. Mathematics crafts his music in such ways that listeners are able to easily identify with the struggles and stresses of life, while also enjoying the triumphs. Mathematics draws his musical inspiration from Nas, Jay-Z, Lupe Fiasco, Kanye West, Eminem. He is also heavily influenced by legends like Michael Jackson and Sammy Davis, Jr.” -Source:


What else is there to him?

“Mathematics isn’t just a rapper, he is a true artist in every sense of the word. His profound lyricism is uncommon in an industry that is littered with labels and artists who are motivated by making money fast, not true talent. He is a much-needed breath of fresh air in the midst of artists whose lyrics a filled with lies, sex, drugs, money, and more lies. Rather than complaining about the state of the music industry, Mathematics just hopes to make undeniable positive music and spread it to anyone who is willing to listen.” -Source:





My best friend and I supporting Mathematics in Summer 2011


Peek-A-Boo! My Tattoo!


My Mathematics tanks! Find out how you can get yours!

Needless to say, I am INCREDIBLY excited about this new experience! Whoever said that when one door closes, another opens was absolutely right! I’m looking forward to keeping you all updated on this amazing journey that we are all about to embark on!

Be sure to follow mathematics on twitter: @_mathematics

Like his Facebook Fan Page: MathematicsMusic

and visit his website:

Subscribe to his Youtube Channel

Check out his music video with Javon Singleton entitled “Ignorant Shit” Below


Stay Tuned….

XoXo, Jada