Round 3: What are your thoughts on internet dating?
-Submitted by a Panel Member
Mr. Always Right
I’m not against internet dating but I personally have never met anyone who had an actual relationship that started online. Not saying they don’t exist but I’ve never met them. Lot of meeting people, networking or hook ups. Nothing like old fashion face to face
The Free Spirit
Internet dating is still very taboo and for NO real reason, because most of you have met someone on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. It’s the exact same thing as having a Plenty of Fish, Ok Cupid (Which, if you live in New York, you should be all too familiar with EVERYONE being on there), Black people meet, etc only those are designated for dating. “The Bachelor” and I met on Black Planet YEARS ago and we’re still really great friends. As for my opinion, I LOVE IT! It’s like a catalog of potential suitors. If I don’t respond to a message, it ends there. I can create a profile saying exactly what I want and have a bunch of guys message me that meet that criteria. It’s like online shopping – but for dating! Yeah, you have your crazies and you do have to be very careful because you never know who you’re going meet, but I take the good with the bad and it’s worked out well for me. A friend of mine actually married and had her first child with her long time boyfriend that she met on Myspace. I encourage everyone to be open-minded and optimistic.
I personally feel with the drastic change in how we communicate everyday as people with social media, internet dating has been more socially accepted across the board. Internet dating is not for me because I’m old fashioned. If you work 90 hours a week chasing your career and have a busy lifestyle sometimes old school dating can be very difficult to fix into your schedule. Internet dating allows you to tailor the type of individual you wanna meet “preferably someone who understands your lifestyle” and makes it easier to date on the fly.
The flower child
I have no issue with internet dating done well and with good intent. While I have yet to reach the desire to try it out, I can respect people who have used it to facilitate meeting new people or beginning a relationship. I hate to think society has become so enamored with the internet that we’ve taken to it to find our matches for us. It takes away from the whole social experience. But whatevs, I get it, life is chaotic and people want love without the hassle of having to physically put yourself in a place to find it. I understand too that some people are just exhausted of dating. These sites can cut the cost of time and energy wasted on total flops by simply clicking next or ignoring a message. However, from the people I know who’ve tried these sites, the number of creeps they encounter totally outweighs the number of winners. I mean there are people who abuse these programs and troll for prey. The internet is a scary place when considering you have no knowledge of who is on the other side of the screen. Deceit is possible through the internet and in real-time. I just feel like the internet can be so much more deceptive than me experiencing you first-hand and catching your vibes. I’m not against it, I’m just not necessarily pro-internet dating either. I guess you could consider me indifferent. I understand it’s purpose for some people, I just don’t know that I’d trust it for myself. If it’s your preferred avenue, no judgement bro.
Unfiltered and Unbothered
I don’t feel one way or another about it honestly. I know friends who have used it and gotten boyfriends and I know friends who have used it and got great fuck buddies. I don’t personally use it but I wouldn’t be opposed to it. Everyone lives their lives online anyway.
The Georgia peach
Online dating is great… when done right! Social media has made the dating world especially easier than meeting someone in person. On both ends of the scale it can be a good or bad thing. If you’re not catfish !!! There is a science to making a profile that attracts the right person. I would advise if a person decides he or she wants to meet up that you tell a friend for safety reasons.
The wild one
I THINK WITH SO MUCH OF OUR LIVES BEING DISPLAYED ON SOCIAL MEDIA FROM FACEBOOK TO INSTAGRAM AND ETC… IT’S A COOL WAY TO MEET PEOPLE. I’VE Met A Lotta Cool People online. The Real Question Should be What Are you looking for When You Online Date Are You Seeking A Soul Mate, A Friend, A One Night Stand Or a fuck buddy.
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