25 Habits of Cheap People that Annoy the Rest of Us

Posted on May 27, 2014 by iiamcouture

Before I begin, being “cheap” and being “frugal” are too different things. Frugal folks, though they tend to be just as annoying in some cases, consider the “value” of items when purchasing. Cheap people are just a pain in the ass, but I have cheap friends and I love them anyway. Here goes!

1. When the check comes at dinner, yelling out “I only had….” and proceeding to list the water and whatever appetizer you ordered.

2. Coming to a social gathering, contributing a bottle of alcohol to the night’s festivities, then when the night is over, taking it back home with you. Kevin-Hart-Really-GIF

3.Inviting friends to go shopping and spending the entire time in the sale section of every store

4. Or commenting that everything is too expensive

5. Or commenting that you “would never spend that much on” whatever it is that your friend is about to purchase kim-kardashian-testing-out-la-florists

6. Driving on E while convincing the passengers that “I know my car”

7. Inviting people over during the summer and refusing to put the AC on when you can “Just open the window” Note: If it’s hot outside, then the air you are letting in will be, you guessed it? Hot too! 1388990714720

8. Which brings me to driving with the windows down to preserve gas. Friendly Tip: The AC takes up more gas than driving with the windows down thing is FALSE. When you drive with the windows down, the air getting into the car slows it down so you have to exert more pressure on the gas to go faster resulting in you eating up about the same amount of gas as if you would have driven with the AC. airplane

9. Never offering to put in for gas, tolls, pay to park, etc. yNKR9ou

10. Never doing any of the things above, but always needing a ride show-me-the-money01

11. Go to cookouts all of the time, but never bring anything

12. When you’re out with friends and expenses come up, likecab fare, using the excuse “I would, but I don’t have any more cash on me” oops

13. At dinner, talking about how horrible the service is so it will come to no one’s surprise when you don’t tip You-Turn-Your-Nose-Up-Parents-Who-Ask-Playdates-After-School-Because-Your-Child-Fully-Booked

14. Or low balling the tip Your Bill

15. Or using someone else’s tip to make up for your lack of tip 1390000070260

16. Bringing full course meals into the movie theater and making tons of noise trying to get it out of your bag, unwrap up, move it around and everything else to call attention to your grocery bag full of food

17. Continuously saying you’re “so hungry” so that someone will offer to buy you food

18. Standing in the grocery line FOR EVER because you’re in a stare down with the cashier who won’t honor your coupon

19. Just couponing in general!

Confession: I’m actually kind of interested in trying this, but there should be a separate line where couponers can wait in line for hours together as not to disrupt the rest of the universe.

20. Purchasing fake designer items because you “simply can’t justify spending that much on a handbag”

21. Critiquing those who actually did “spend that much on a handbag”

22. Going out and continuously asking “is this on sale?”

23. Always asking for someone’s Netflix or Hulu Plus login

25. Conveniently being “busy” whenever invited to a birthday outing to avoid having to buy a gift tumblr_mesl222Jcx1ql5yr7o1_400

Moral of the story? DO better!

The Panel – Round 3: Thoughts on Internet Dating

Posted on May 22, 2014 by iiamcouture

Round 3: What are your thoughts on internet dating?

-Submitted by a Panel Member

Mr. Always Right

I’m not against internet dating but I personally have never met anyone who had an actual relationship that started online. Not saying they don’t exist but I’ve never met them. Lot of meeting people, networking or hook ups. Nothing like old fashion face to face

The Free Spirit

Internet dating is still very taboo and for NO real reason, because most of you have met someone on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. It’s the exact same thing as having a Plenty of Fish, Ok Cupid (Which, if you live in New York, you should be all too familiar with EVERYONE being on there), Black people meet, etc only those are designated for dating. “The Bachelor” and I met on Black Planet YEARS ago and we’re still really great friends. As for my opinion, I LOVE IT! It’s like a catalog of potential suitors. If I don’t respond to a message, it ends there. I can create a profile saying exactly what I want and have a bunch of guys message me that meet that criteria. It’s like online shopping – but for dating! Yeah, you have your crazies and you do have to be very careful because you never know who you’re going meet, but I take the good with the bad and it’s worked out well for me. A friend of mine actually married and had her first child with her long time boyfriend that she met on Myspace. I encourage everyone to be open-minded and optimistic.

The bachelor

I personally feel with the drastic change in how we communicate everyday as people with social media, internet dating has been more socially accepted across the board. Internet dating is not for me because I’m old fashioned. If you work 90 hours a week chasing your career and have a busy lifestyle sometimes old school dating can be very difficult to fix into your schedule. Internet dating allows you to tailor the type of individual you wanna meet “preferably someone who understands your lifestyle” and makes it easier to date on the fly.

The flower child

I have no issue with internet dating done well and with good intent. While I have yet to reach the desire to try it out, I can respect people who have used it to facilitate meeting new people or beginning a relationship. I hate to think society has become so enamored with the internet that we’ve taken to it to find our matches for us. It takes away from the whole social experience. But whatevs, I get it, life is chaotic and people want love without the hassle of having to physically put yourself in a place to find it. I understand too that some people are just exhausted of dating. These sites can cut the cost of time and energy wasted on total flops by simply clicking next or ignoring a message. However, from the people I know who’ve tried these sites, the number of creeps they encounter totally outweighs the number of winners. I mean there are people who abuse these programs and troll for prey. The internet is a scary place when considering you have no knowledge of who is on the other side of the screen. Deceit is possible through the internet and in real-time. I just feel like the internet can be so much more deceptive than me experiencing you first-hand and catching your vibes. I’m not against it, I’m just not necessarily pro-internet dating either. I guess you could consider me indifferent. I understand it’s purpose for some people, I just don’t know that I’d trust it for myself. If it’s your preferred avenue, no judgement bro.

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Unfiltered and Unbothered

I don’t feel one way or another about it honestly. I know friends who have used it and gotten boyfriends and I know friends who have used it and got great fuck buddies. I don’t personally use it but I wouldn’t be opposed to it. Everyone lives their lives online anyway. not-listening

The Georgia peach

Online dating is great… when done right! Social media has made the dating world especially easier than meeting someone in person. On both ends of the scale it can be a good or bad thing. If you’re not catfish !!! There is a science to making a profile that attracts the right person. I would advise if a person decides he or she wants to meet up that you tell a friend for safety reasons. Online-Dating-GIF

The wild one

I THINK WITH SO MUCH OF OUR LIVES BEING DISPLAYED ON SOCIAL MEDIA FROM FACEBOOK TO INSTAGRAM AND ETC… IT’S A COOL WAY TO MEET PEOPLE. I’VE Met A Lotta Cool People online. The Real Question Should be What Are you looking for When You Online Date Are You Seeking A Soul Mate, A Friend, A One Night Stand Or a fuck buddy. tumblr_lmqy1bF5IF1qfdqnno1_500

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12 Reasons Why I Won’t Fill Out A Job Application

Posted on May 21, 2014 by iiamcouture

and There’s a Pretty Good Chance Other Milennials Won’t Either

As a not-so distant college graduate, there came a time when I was filling out almost 50 job applications every couple of days! Needless to day, Indeed became my very best friend.

I would scour pages and pages of positions for hours, find a position I thought was fitting, and “click wherever” to apply. Well, in a lot of cases, I wouldn’t go past this point from a number a reasons.

1. Company culture is EXTREMELY important to me. What is the company saying about their brand? Are they passionate? Up beat? Innovative? If not, I sense impending boredom and i’m on to the next one.

2. The application process is TOOOOOOO LOOOOOOOOOONG! I upload a resume in the beginning then have to go through an entire application process to input the SAME information! It feels like a futile and archaic process that takes up A LOT of time, so yet again, I keep it trucking.

3. Now comes the Company Website! Do they have some sort of “Meet the Team” page? I like to see who I would be working with and whether or not any of them look like me. I like to see diversity, it makes for an immersion of cultures, ideas and creative perspectives.

4.PAY! A lot of companies exclude this and I understand, because pay is often based on education and experience. But, I need at LEAST a salary range! – That’s fair.

5. Back to the company site again, are they giving back? Is the company involved in the community? Do they push corporate responsibility? Are employees volunteering? If not? Red flag! I’m over you!

6. GLASSDOOR! Oh yes! This is my absolute FAVORITE measuring method, because I want to know WHAT THE EMPLOYEES ARE SAYING ABOUT THE COMPANY! Are they happy with the values? Is there work/life balance (Which isn’t of much importance to me now, but it may be later on down the line when I have kids and a family)? Are there growth opportunities? Hell, Are the employees even HAPPY?!

7. Glassdoor 2.0, What is the interview process like? Is it an exchange between two parties uncovering if the applicant is as much of a fit for the company as the company is for the applicant? Are the interviewers engaging? Do they interview twice, once on phone and in person or do they interview several times? What kind of questions do they ask?

8. Do I have to write a cover letter????? This is laziness more than anything and depends more on the job that i’m applying for. If it’s something that i’m passionate about, I will write my little heart out in a cover letter. If it’s a bleh, I just need a job i’ll take anything. To hell with it, I’m moving on.

9. As a social media obsessor and considering that it’s a huge part of what I do, I like to see the company engaging with its audience on social media. Are they re-tweeting? Replying? Mentioning? Are they commenting on customer concerns posted to their Facebook page? What’s the turn around time?

10. I’m not qualified enough. I’ll read through the entire ad thinking “I can do that”, “I can do that too!”, “Oh I got this!” then get to the bottom and they want 5 years of experience, 10 years of experience, 30 years of experience and I decide “Welp! Won’t waste my time with that! Now that i’m older, I think that I would actually apply to a position that required a certain number of years even if I didn’t have it. The only surefire way NOT to get a job? Is NOT to apply! But, it still is a deterrent.

11. It’s a strictly Sales Job disguised as Marketing, Advertising or Public Relations. That, my friends, is BEYOND irritating.

12. The job sounds boring. Granted, there will be instances at every job where it isn’t the most thrilling place to be, but sheer monotony would drive me absolutely bat “ish” crazy!

The Panel – Round 2: “I’m involved with someone that’s involved with someone else”

Posted on May 13, 2014 by iiamcouture

Round 2: “I’ve been dating someone for a little over 3 months now and it’s getting serious but he is involved with someone else. I’ve fallen hard for this person and I don’t know what to do. Help!”

-Submited by Dazed and Confused

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“Mr. Always Right”

Fall the FUCK back. Who is it getting serious for, both of ya’ll or just you? Cause if it was serious for him, he would have left his girlfriend and just been single and dating you. Listen, if ya’ll just gon have fun, or fuck or whatever then it is what it is, but if you want more you need to make some space and see what happens. If a guy wants you, he’s gonna do what it takes. Honestly, you dont really wanna get him by takin him from his girl anyway, cause if you DO get him what’s gonna stop him from talking to another chick once ya’ll are together..Same way you get a nigga you’ll lose him. So make some space and see what happens.

“The Georgia Peach”

“Move on! Easier said then done but your feelings count too. 3 months is not a long time at all . Someone else is bound to come along. In the meantime, get to know your wants and needs , so you can be better prepared.”

“The Free Spirit”

Ohhhhh boy! Been there, done that and there’s a 98% chance that things won’t end well….for you! First things first, what indication has he given you that things are “pretty serious?” Has he introduced you to family? friends? Have you two discussed a future? More than likely, it’s a hard no. You’re giving him everything that he wants, without having to commit, so he’s not going to. My advice? If it’s been over 3 months and he’s still with her, he’s NOT leaving and in the 2% chance that he does, it won’t be worth the constant worry that he’s going to do the same thing he did to her, to you. You deserve better.

“The Bachelor”

Warning!!!! Before you fall for someone make sure it’s mutual. If you know the person you’re dating is also involved with someone else then keep in mind you don’t have that person’s 100% full attention which means you may be the “side piece”. Always do your homework before getting too deeply involved or you will get burned!!!!!!!

“Unbothered and Unfiltered”

Umm y’all are not dating. It sounds like you’re a backup. First off I don’t know what your definition of dating is. Yes you can be dating multiple people but if you’re saying it’s gotten serious there shouldn’t be anybody else. Your best bet is to talk to him and tell him how you feel and see what he says. I feel like there’s more to this story then was given.

“The Flower Child”

you should feel comfortable to ask the, “Where is this going?,” question. Clearly, if he’s still involved with someone else, he doesn’t know of your interest in being exclusive to one another. Don’t come in intense asking about short and long term goals for your relationship and no ultimatums! You like this guy, just take it easy. Tell him what you’re thinking and ask him the same. If your stars align, awesome. If not, maybe your focus can sway to another “friend” as well. It doesn’t mean you’ve lost interest in continuing to get to know him, but at least you know to keep things light. When a guy wants you, I mean really wants you, he’ll let you know. The best thing you can do is communicate your interest. Sort of, a ball is in his court kind of thing. If he decides to play, then you’ve beat the competition! If not, then draft yourself a few more players and let him sweat it out on the sidelines!

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“The Wild One”

-Took a different approach to the question and gave his perspective for if he was in that situation.

If I really cared about her I would give her an ultimatum. Either it’s me or it’s Him. Being a “side nigga” is cool only if you’re trying to have fun, but when your feelings get involved it’s a whole nother ball game. Triangles occur. Feelings get involved and people get hurt .

“The Sour Patch”

First, you need to talk to that person to see if he/she wants you in their future. Believe me.. you can tell when a person is serious or playing games! If they hesitate or talk in circles… Hmmm, you better leave it alone! If that person takes you serious, make it known that you want a exclusive relationship. So no extras involved. Now,if you continue to date the non-committed person, beware of the title SIDE-CHICK!!! Yea that’s going to be your name! Good luck on your shenanigan endeavors! 🙂

In a nutshell……chances are…..

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The Panel – Round 1: Is Revenge Cheating Justified?

Posted on May 7, 2014 by iiamcouture

Everyone has been at a get together one time or another with a bunch of friends. It’s a good time, everyone is drinking, laughing, dancing and having a good time until………Someone throws out a question and chaos ensues immediately! Opinions are being thrown around the room, everyone is yelling over everyone else to get their point across and it’s a complete mess. Nonetheless, it’s always interesting to hear the differences of opinion, especially when it comes to men versus women. In a nutshell, that’s how the panel was inspired.

The Panel is a series with a mix of men and women, ages 21-35. Every week 1 to 2 questions are thrown at the panel for their input and their answers are documented and posted.

Some of the questions have been submitted, while others are chosen at random.

Feel free to provide your own insight and even comment on the answers.

Round 1: Is Revenge Cheating Justified? Submitted by “99 Problems”

“Mr. Always Right”

Is revenge cheating justified..sure. Though I don’t think I’d recommend it because it’s not going to solve the problem of why the person cheated to begin with. If I was cheated on I’d like to think I’d (1) decide whether or not this person is worth trying fix things with and if so then (2) deal with the issue and move forward. I mean I know it’s an eye for an eye out here but “an eye for an eye we both lose our sight” and two wrongs won’t make that shit right. Revenge cheating feels a little on the immature side to me. But there are a lot of immature relationships out here so, there you go.

“The Wild One”

REVENGE cheating is never justifiable. Two wrongs don’t make a right. There’s too many people on that tit for tat shit – it’s horrible. There’s too many females fucking out of spite and hurt. They run back to old flings and old boyfriends out of comfort only to look like fools. Males do the same but are only affected if they really love their woman. Fuck Cheating Be Faithful

“The Free Spirit”

As a cheater turned monogomist (whatever that means), I no longer see the point in cheating. (I know, i’m probably BSing because i’m all in love now, but fuck it) As for being justified, if someone cheats on you and you agree to stay to with them, then you’re agreeing to accept whatever mistake he/she made in the past. I can understand why someone would be hurt, but if that’s the case, you should probably talk about those issues with your spouse. Find out why they cheated and if the relationship is repairable. Stepping out of the relationship will add no value to your life and you end up hurt walking around with your head down and a wet ass.

“Unbothered & Unfiltered”

I personally wouldn’t revenge cheat because I see no point. I’m just going to drop your ass, but I can understand why someone would. My thing is if your going to revenge cheat you have to go bigger then your partner. If he stepped out on you with some random girl, fuck his brother.

“The Bachelor”

In my opinion if a relationship has escalated to the point where one is cheating the other then it becomes a battle of who walks away with power. So revenge cheating is one of the various ways to gain the upper hand over your significant other if you find he or she is cheating.

“The Flower Child”

Revenge cheating is unjustifiable. I’ve never been one to tit for tat, especially when it comes to hurting someone else. Being cheated on sucks. Its painful and it often unearths a lot of insecurities and emotions you weren’t even aware existed. I’ve always felt the energy you put out is the energy you receive. The hurt that has been inflicted upon you does not justify you projecting those feelings onto someone else- especially for the purpose of making a point or reciprocating against a wrong. Ultimately, you’re prolonging your misery and surrounding yourself with polluted energy. Let it fall to the wayside! As difficult as it can be, let the cheater go! I’m not saying you can’t make a grand exit with a shower of F-bombs and choice words, but don’t retaliate and definitely don’t involve an innocent third party. It’s hard enough to deal with a betrayal, don’t allow your good conscience to be clouded by someone else’s deceit.

“The Sour Patch”

No, because if you want to maintain a serious relationship you must learn to forgive and move on. If you keep competing or using that as an excuse in the relationship to do some shitty stuff then it wouldn’t last. Now if you plan to end the relationship, then by all means be single! People forget you can just be single, no cheating is not involved in that… I know right the surprise!!! If you want your relationship to grow, and get better you both must put in 100%.

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The Panel – Round 3: Thoughts on Internet Dating

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12 Reasons Why I Won’t Fill Out A Job Application

The Panel – Round 2: “I’m involved with someone that’s involved with someone else”

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The Panel – Round 1: Is Revenge Cheating Justified?

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